5 Easy Ways To Make Friends
Why is it so hard to Meet People as a young adult?
After I graduated from the University of Arkansas, I moved to Kansas City to start my first full-time corporate job. I was excited to venture into a new city and meet people, but quickly realized it wasn’t as easy as it sounded. I wasn’t interested in bar hopping to make friends and I wanted to meet people outside of the office. For a while, I went into isolation mode and convinced myself that this was just the fine print of becoming an adult.
It wasn’t until this past year that my network started to expand exponentially. I noticed a few things that helped me connect with others in a natural, painless manner and I’ve outlined my favorites below! Let me know which of these tactics you think you would want to try and comment below with more suggestions!
1. Join an Intramural team
Don’t let the idea of a sport scare you! You definitely don’t have to be an athlete to join intramural teams. As long as you have good sportsmanship, and like to have fun, you’ll fit right in! AJ joined softball and kickball leagues while I have taken on the title of the sideline cheerleader. Since attending his games, I’ve become friends with many of his teammates and others who come to watch the games. When I bring my dog Theodore along, I’m basically a magnet for making friends!
2. Download Bumble
Many people don’t realize that Bumble is more than a dating app and now has 3 modes (Bumble, Bumble BFF, and Bumble Bizz). Depending on your needs, you can find a boo thang, a bestie, or a business partner on the app now.
I’ve personally used the app in all three modes! AJ didn’t match with me on Bumble, but I tried (you can read more on that here lol), but on Bumble BFF I’ve hung out with amazing girls and have even found a last minute photographer on Bumble Bizz. If you haven’t, download the app and see who is in your area that may want to hang and be sure to follow the Bumble team in your city for fun events!
3. Host a Dinner
When I first moved to Kansas City, I loved having people over for Sunday dinners. The idea is that everyone brings a dish and a friend. When I was growing up, my family always did Sunday Dinners. Despite our busy schedules, it was the one time in the week we all knew to not schedule anything and show up without technology for genuine conversations and good food.
It’s a great way to alleviate the mild home sickness I get and it easily expands the friend group when everyone brings a guest. You can even get creative with it and theme the nights!
4. Join a club
Much to my surprise there is a club for literally everything! I’ve seen it all from book clubs to Segway clubs. Chances are if it’s a hobby you have, someone else is probably interested in it as well. This is such an easy way to connect with people who likely have a lot in common with you.
If you’re not sure where to start, Meetup is a really great website for finding clubs in your area. If you can’t find a club you’re looking for, don’t be afraid to start one up!
5. Attend Local Events
Events are perfect opportunities to get out and interact with the community. If you’re in Kansas City, I like to browse this website to see what activities are going on. If you aren’t in KC simply google your city and “upcoming events” to find out what’s happening near you.
I created my own event called Media Mixer which is aimed at providing a collaborative space for creatives and entrepreneurs. I was looking for a very specific group of people at the time and couldn’t find it. Instead of waiting for something to happen, I created my ideal event. if I can do it, you can do it too!